For weeks the rain has been falling. It's a good thing because of the lack of snow melt. There are times it is so heavy you can't drive and have to pull over and wait. When cloud cover is heavy, it causes some folks to want to roll over and sleep more. I'm not among them. It's daylight and I'd be “burnin daylight” according to John Wayne (From the Cowboys,) if I didn't rise to the occasion and get my day started.
Notice how I've missed using the words damp, dreary, dark, foreboding, depressing etc.. Those are things I wade through each morning when I go through Facebook posts and hide them from myself and others before they have a chance to enter my soul. Yeah, those words may be things that cross my mind or be part of how I feel, but I don't give them life by speaking them.
Negative self-talk is popular as people replay the broken record of “I have a right to express how I feel!” You do, but if you're always complaining about how unhappy you are and never look for the bright side of things, that is where you will remain. Depression is a hole you have to crawl out of while it continues to pull you backward.
Looking for other people or things to make you happy is like winning the lotto, probably not going to happen because much of your happiness and mine is found in our own hands. We have to make the choice of looking for the positive perspective of life by seeing what we do have instead of pampering ourselves by finding words that agree with our mood.
That's the reason I do a lot of deleting of negative posts-they defeat, deflate and delay any chance I have of responding to every situation I experience and seeing a positive side in my life. When you know the person posting copied the saying from a sight with the word depression in it, you know it will coddle your low feelings.
I can compare this to losing weight. I know, bad subject. However when someone says they are having trouble losing weight and I watch as they consume not one plate but two at gatherings and then top it off by a sampling of every dessert available, I shake my head. We are our own worst enemy. By consuming three family size bags of chips each day what do you think will be the results at the end of week two, will I have lost five pounds or gained five pounds?
Discipline is a hard thing especially when we have low self-esteem and feel like we aren't worthy of anything better or we will never be good enough. If you wait to be self-motivated by these thoughts, you might wait a long time. Thankfully God settled it for all of us by stating none of us will ever be good enough, but wait, he doesn't leave us there, he instructs us on how to think and speak change into our lives.
I don't care how deprived you are, how horrible your past, how many times you have tried to do better or if you think it can't work, it does. The reason it works is because God's instruction tells us what to look for and how we should think in order to arrive at our happy place. He lets us know up front that the drama we are surrounded by contains not one iota of happiness that lasts.
“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things,” Philippians 4:8, NIV.
A lot of folks think of this as escaping reality. No, by changing our thinking pattern and our underlying belief system we become proactive in our search for happiness and our state of being begins to loose it's heaviness. This is where we all have to gain a good split personality and separate ourselves from all the negativeness from who we really are.
There are times I have had to force myself to socialize, sit in the sunlight and to put away the second bag of chips and read positive and self-help articles to interrupt what's going on in my mind. God also saw to it that some of the characters in the Bible demonstrated a depressed state of being and after telling us their woes, showed the turn around when they countered it with what God did or said.
So if you're someone who burns daylight because you would rather not face another day of the same old, same old, then you are someone who needs to get out of the rain, you're drowning. Change the “same old” by doing something for someone else and while you're at it, do something for yourself. Is there one thing you have put off? Do it and get some physical exercise along the way. Mentally think of what God tells you to think about and sit and write a prayer that includes your blessings. If you're breathing, moving and writing, that is three things you can start with.
While some people may need medication to help, all that most of us need is to give ourselves a swift boot and make the adjustments mentally, physically and emotionally to be happy in our daily lives. And for goodness sake smile, the world needs your example.
The rain may come down, but God will lift you up.